They apparently see your success as a form of betrayal вЂ“ a betrayal of the person you used to be or still are in their mind. For example, people might say something like, 'Isn't this the same old Jim I grew up with, went to school with, and partied with вЂ“ who does he think he is now?' For some reason, they have an image of you (pre-success) burned into their psyche and they just can't remove it. There they often find nothing but resentment. The Bible says (and I'm paraphrasing now) that successful people can find respect anywhere except within their own family or hometown. They say it breeds contempt, and this is especially true for someone who has achieved a certain level of success. The fourth and final reason is familiarity. They have a mental image of what a successful person should be or look like вЂ“ and you're not it. They may think you are not good enough, pedigreed enough, or from the right kind of family or background. For example, some people will automatically dismiss your accomplishments because you don't have what they feel is the right amount of education or experience. They may think you are not credentialed enough for the success you have achieved. They may feel that success came too easy for you and that, because of your natural ability, you didn't have to work as hard as they would have to, in order to gain comparable achievements. The third reason is that they might not think you are deserving of success, for whatever reason. They always want to be number 1, the most important. They may actually be challenged to improve themselves. Because of you, they might be forced out their comfort zone. They are satisfied with the status quo and you are ruining things for them. It might increase the standards for which they will be judged in the future. The second reason is that your success often makes them look bad. They just focus on the fact that you acquired something good that they didn't, think you didn't deserve вЂ“ and they don't like it. And they conveniently ignore all the hard work that paved the way for your success. Funny thing, though, they never wish for any of your hardships, losses, disappointments, pain, illnesses, or anything of the like. They always believe/wish/ it was them instead of you, he feels more entitled to it than you. The narcissist in particular can't stand anyone else's prosperity. The first and most obvious reason is that they are jealous. So why does the narcissist hate you when are successful? I think there are four basic reasons. Obviously, success draws its share of admiration, but it's guaranteed to rouse some hate as well. When or if you achieve some level of success in life, whether as big as a prestigious award or as small as a compliment, the narcissist is going to hate you for it.

The mask of sanity